Find a friend

[car10002]

Hi

Was wondering what you can do to find a girl to hang around with and if there’s still hope to meet people the way baby boomers did or if we just have to accept meeting people is now different and just be careful.

most younger people work during week and have weekends off and events happen on weekends that doesn’t happen in the work week and because of that and being in the hospitality industry it makes it hard and wanting to get out at some point and do something else that only works normal business hours.

At the moment the time isn’t right to change careers which will probably make things easier and trying to hang on until the deli changes owners.

Do you lot think it’d be a good idea to plan a way out now even though am not doing anything in a hurry because very unlikely to last longer than the owners 60th in 3 or 4 years and may be doing well to last that, she’s 57 now and it’ll probably that long to come up with something.

Giving it till the owners 60th to see what happens.

Have also some business goals and wish to reach them in next 5 years.

At moment am happy enough where am living, it’s hard having people over and like to have own space to have people over and that’s making it hard.

Eventually will have own house but am waiting until am able to buy and until then am happy with current living arrangements.

What makes it easy for other people to find a guy or a girl or friends similar age. Is it the hours they work or what is it.

[Yellow_Festiva]

Join as many local groups as you can on FB:

* Bush walking
* Car
* Men's Shed
* Community buy and sell
* Hobbies / interests
* Community volunteering
* Religious
* Anything else you are into

Many of the posts revolve around local connections and meeting up.

So go to a few and make yourself known.

Forget about what you are doing in 2-5 years. Sure it's fine to have goals and aspirations but if that means relying on others you assume will do something you may be setting yourself up for failure.

Life is short and things can change suddenly and often you have little to no control of the situation.

Yes - life is what you make it, but it's also what others make it for you.

Of course there is the plethora of dating sites you can get onto as well.

Especially now, most connections between people have some sort of online / social media intervention. I think the nostalgic days of going to the pub and buying a girl a drink are soon behind us sadly.

[car10002]

Just going to have to accept how younger people meet and be careful

Also what’s it cost to run a house (what expenses are there)

How much would you need to earn to be able to do that and to buy place and to have a life

[jaydee]

Mate you have asked this numerous times before, people reply and then nothing from you, same with advice on how to make friends. You need to put yourself out there (physically, not on a forum) and ask people who are experiencing the same issues of getting to know people or trying to buy their own place.
To buy a place you need a good deposit, then figure out can you afford to make the repayments. So depending on how much you can afford will depend on how much you need to live off and pay off a mortgage, earn at least 50-75 grand for a property under 500k.
That is really broad. Good luck.

http://www.fordforums.com.au/showthread.php?t=11492746

http://www.fordforums.com.au/showthread.php?t=11492451

http://www.fordforums.com.au/showthread.php?t=11491912

http://www.fordforums.com.au/showthread.php?t=11491721

http://www.fordforums.com.au/showthread.php?t=11490685

[FTE217]

Originally Posted by jaydee

Mate you have asked this numerous times before, people reply and then nothing from you, same with advice on how to make friends. You need to put yourself out there (physically, not on a forum) and ask people who are experiencing the same issues of getting to know people or trying to buy their own place.
To buy a place you need a good deposit, then figure out can you afford to make the repayments. So depending on how much you can afford will depend on how much you need to live off and pay off a mortgage, earn at least 50-75 grand for a property under 500k.
That is really broad. Good luck.

http://www.fordforums.com.au/showthread.php?t=11492746

http://www.fordforums.com.au/showthread.php?t=11492451

http://www.fordforums.com.au/showthread.php?t=11491912

http://www.fordforums.com.au/showthread.php?t=11491721

http://www.fordforums.com.au/showthread.php?t=11490685

yep - car is repeating himself.
IF he's true means he hasn't done anything but do the same thing.
OR he's trolling for kicks.
Be good to know the truth but hey wonders of the wide world web.
All the best out there matey.

[MDS69]

To meet people male or female consider joining the local SES or RFS.

[slowsnake]

Hello Car, mate for every boy/man and girl/woman there is someone compatible with each of the above, but in these days of online dating, the old school boy meets girl, falls in love and gets married is very rare, the whole dating game is different to when your parents met each other and you were born!

It's different now, you can't look backwards for help, that time is over, you have to adapt to today's world of social media, but you may get a girl the old natural way, just a chance meeting, at a shop, a barbecue, on the beach or even in the local library!

But good luck with all your endeavours Car!

[thefargo]

a mate of mine was afraid of rejection, so didn't risk approaching others. He was saving for 'mrs right' and was waiting for her to come along. he still lives with his mother, has money in the bank, and 'mrs right' hasn't yet knocked on the door. he is 58.
is this you?

[car10002]

hi



was wondering how to get friends similar age to you that you could go on trips or travel and see while you work in the job you have until you are able to get out and do something with better hours.



used to drive from kadina/moonta to murray bridge alone (2015) and see cousins and car that had at time came to that time (2016) where it started to have a lot of things wrong plus a relative had cancer and plus the cousins started having more kids of their own and a few years after (2018) bought another better car for a daily and at same it got harder to drive yourself up and see them other than if some event was on.



the only thing stopping you driving yourself up was had felt car wasnt up to trips to murray bridge and around same time the cousins had kids of their own and feel that am no better off seeing them other than events than we are seeing cousins that live in nsw that come over to sa or that the grandmother is seeing grand kids in mount gambier and murray bridge is only half the distance.



just miss the travelling to murray bridge alone and the sister has a boyfriend that she goes to adelaide or plans to every other weekend alone to see him and as much as am happy for her am still waiting and just want friends to go see and a girl to hang around with.



wanting more friends to be able to go to more events of theirs and just do things with.



am just finding it a little hard even though am managing through day fine.



just want a girl to hang around with on and off and some friends similar age.



some times you feel like things are that desperate you wonder how your grandparents trailer that is barely roadworthy (really is only good enough to take rubbish to the local dump) would go travelling to adelaide and back wether it would make it there or back or if youd have to hire a car trailer down there to bring the trailer back, thats if own trailer isnt going by then.



going to a uncles 60th soon and while its a great way to meet people or get idea of doing it you at same time will see people with someone.



am probably not going to make quite 20 years at current hospitality job as much as am enjoying it at moment however am hoping to make atleast 15 years, want to be able to do things while am still able to and the hospitality job has the wrong hours and if it wasnt for the owners then would have been one of people that changed after lockdown.



with working for yourself part time will there be additional reporting and problems or is it just the usual being able to earn so much and do so many hours before pensions get reduced as that is what am planning once am out of hospitality, and was taught to never leave until at least having another option as it may take time unless the business sells.

[deankdx]

have you tried any of the mentioned things?
if so which ones?
which didn't work? and why not?
try them again, you didn't learn to walk on the first try.. kept trying until you could walk i bet.