Depression, Anxiety

[DFB FGXR6]

Originally Posted by FoxtrotGolfXray 5.0

A couple of stats in here that were surprising for me:

There are now only a few sleeps to go until the holidays begin. Yep, the pointy end of 2022 is well and truly here – and while with that comes loads of sweet stuff (like a well-earned break, get-togethers with loved ones and hopefully, sleep-ins), it can bring emotional distress, too.
Lifeline received over 98,000 calls in December 2021 - a record for that time of year. And, on New Year's Day they recorded their busiest day in their almost-60-year history, with 3,736 calls. They expect this Christmas to be just as challenging - if not more so.
We know the festive period can be a difficult time for many, and so our friends at Lifeline have created a downloadable 12 Days of Wellness Guide to help you navigate this time of year.

I struggle in the lead up to Christmas for a variety of reasons, it ends up being a month of self-destructive and resentful behavior, so reading that doesn't surprise me.

[FoxtrotGolfXray 5.0]

Originally Posted by DFB FGXR6

I struggle in the lead up to Christmas for a variety of reasons, it ends up being a month of self-destructive and resentful behavior, so reading that doesn't surprise me.

Having read your previous experiences over the Xmas period, you were one person I thought if when I read this. I hope this year is better for you than previous years, DFB.

[FTE217]

yep somehow got to look at the bright side but I know the circumstances vary for all.
I feel for those in much deeper situation than some and no one, no family or close ones to confide in hence Lifeline more used than others.
World has become alot more complicated, faster, lack of patience or empathy.
I'm probably guilty on the last 2 mentioned.
Unreal with so much resource available in the modern world for some nothing gets better.

[DFB FGXR6]

I returned to work today after a week on sick leave. Amazing how the stomach aches that I suffer from reappeared again this morning.

Our crew has doubled in size over the last few months... i had half a day just recently to recover from an anxiety attack brought on by caring to much about others opinions/thoughts about me.

On a positive note i had the gym to myself in the middle of the day at camp and a lot of time to reflect moving forward about how to respond to situations out of my control

Merry Christmas

[sneaky]

Originally Posted by sneaky

small update

The doctor has given me another two weeks to get on track. This will see me return to work for two weeks before taking four weeks of annual leave.

work appears to be taking this seriously which is good I suppose, sounds like I'm not alone in struggling with the place at the moment.

small update - I had most of October off work as sick leave (stress/mental health) then I was at work for two weeks followed by another 4 weeks of annual leave with a few trips taken.

During my annual leave I applied for a new position in my company and was successful. the new position is completely different to my old role, closer to home and on more money. I met the team this week and they seem like a good group to work with.

onwards and upwards

[FTE217]

All power to you sneaky take care


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[FoxtrotGolfXray 5.0]

I just wanted to pass on my respect to anyone who is looking after someone today or anyone who is by themselves today.

My daughter is not in a good headspace atm and is refusing to spend any time with family today. We were supposed to go to my mums to have lunch with her and my sister and her hubby.

Suffice to say, I'm essentially spending the day by myself. I can appreciate how difficult it must be for those who have been in a similar situation before.

Thankfully there's some car racing being shown on speedweek

[stock1991]

Originally Posted by FoxtrotGolfXray 5.0

I just wanted to pass on my respect to anyone who is looking after someone today or anyone who is by themselves today.

My daughter is not in a good headspace atm and is refusing to spend any time with family today. We were supposed to go to my mums to have lunch with her and my sister and her hubby.

Suffice to say, I'm essentially spending the day by myself. I can appreciate how difficult it must be for those who have been in a similar situation before.

Thankfully there's some car racing bring shown on speedweek

Best wishes to you Fox, I too am alone albeit in my case by choice but mental health for men is serious. It's ok to reach out and if people are in a chance to help, we should

[FoxtrotGolfXray 5.0]

Originally Posted by stock1991

Best wishes to you Fox, I too am alone albeit in my case by choice but mental health for men is serious. It's ok to reach out and if people are in a chance to help, we should

Appreciate your thoughts, stocky. All the best to you, too, mate. Yep, good thing to talk to someone, no matter who or where they are. I can appreciate why Christmas is such a difficult time for some folk.

[stock1991]

People ask me why im not on FB its because if i want to see my family argue il visit at xmas

[DFB FGXR6]

[FoxtrotGolfXray 5.0]

Daughter is better today. Not quite her normal self or as good as she was last night when she reached out to her mother and spent some time with her, but much better than yesterday.

She is currently suffering a UTI and started meds for it Christmas eve, so I suspect the meds are starting to take effect.

[Citroënbender]

Those infections, yes, have seen people really go off their trolley.

[FoxtrotGolfXray 5.0]

Originally Posted by Citroënbender

Those infections, yes, have seen people really go off their trolley.

Yeah, and it wouldn't help that she stopped taking her anti-anxiety meds about 4 weeks ago. Didn't mention that to either me or her mum.

[Citroënbender]

That’s a really difficult situation in itself, have seen it with family many times - one is a Googling (self-diagnosing) hypochondriac on top of it all.

Glad you know about the medication now, at least there’s room for a more informed strategy.

[whitelion65]

Originally Posted by FoxtrotGolfXray 5.0

Yeah, and it wouldn't help that she stopped taking her anti-anxiety meds about 4 weeks ago. Didn't mention that to either me or her mum.

Guilty🤗
My Dr loves me for it.
Back on 10 mg atm.
Not sure it’s doing much, but….

[FoxtrotGolfXray 5.0]

Originally Posted by whitelion65

Guilty🤗
My Dr loves me for it.
Back on 10 mg atm.
Not sure it’s doing much, but….

I realise it might seem like a drag, but there's a reason your doctor is recommending the meds for you. They have your health and well being in mind! You may not be noticing any difference, but others may be.

[T3rminator]

Reading some of the recent posts regarding Christmas, its made me realise why some people behave the way they do when we have large lunch and dinner gatherings. Its good to be aware.

Anyhow, this Ceasar Millan show reel popped up recently, useful advice......


https://www.facebook.com/reel/818685472716318/

[Vekgib]

Not looking for sympathy or advice. Just chucking it out there......
Really doing it tough atm.
56. No job for seven months. No friends. Married to a woman who's married to her job. Her father (89yo) lives with us and scunges off us ie: doesn't contribute to any household costs, just spends $200 a week on gambling while he has $600K sitting in the bank.
Nothing cheering me up atm.
I host a radio show on the local community radio station. It's a great release, as I have the freedom to play what I want (as long as there's no gratuitous swearing ). But atm, I'm so depressed, I cbf even putting anything together for it.
I just want the end to get here. Soon.
Rant over.

[ford71V8]

I read your post and Im hearing ya.

Dont give up your release via radio gig.
Talk to your listeners maybe?
Gotta say I would love the opportunity of a slot on radio.
Take care bud.

[DFB FGXR6]

Originally Posted by Vekgib

Not looking for sympathy or advice. Just chucking it out there......
Really doing it tough atm.
56. No job for seven months. No friends. Married to a woman who's married to her job. Her father (89yo) lives with us and scunges off us ie: doesn't contribute to any household costs, just spends $200 a week on gambling while he has $600K sitting in the bank.
Nothing cheering me up atm.
I host a radio show on the local community radio station. It's a great release, as I have the freedom to play what I want (as long as there's no gratuitous swearing ). But atm, I'm so depressed, I cbf even putting anything together for it.
I just want the end to get here. Soon.
Rant over.

Vent away, I think most posting in here will understand and relate, me included. Stay strong.

[DFB FGXR6]

So much "noise" today.

I'm tired, cranky and irritated by people coming at me from all directions. One thing at time please! Screaming kids, stupid customers, laziness and incompetence x1000 and so on and so on..............

I was also set off by the announcement two of boss's are taking a 6-week holiday during the highest workload period of the year, leaving a small team down two workers. And yet, if I decided to do that it would be strongly discouraged or denied. I'm owed long service leave, perhaps I should pull that on them and see how that goes down.

I f..king hate people sometimes!

[FoxtrotGolfXray 5.0]

Hopefully it's not all people you hate, DFB.

Whilst most of us on here have never met you, I'm sure we can all appreciate where you're coming from and appreciate the efforts you go through to make these forums a great place to visit.

And I'm also sure most of us care about you.

Take care, mate.

[DFB FGXR6]

I'm posting this here because I think it fits the theme.

Two weeks leave from my main job starts as of now, not returning until February 8th. I will still need to continue to do my private gardening jobs, no rest for the self-employed.

I keep getting asked if I'm "going away". Going away where? What for? I can't think of anything worse to be honest. All that work preparing, traveling to, traveling back, spending the whole time away just wanting to go home and rest.......no thanks. I have everything I want to do right here at home, a list of projects that has kept me at least somewhat motivated for the last couple of months.

The phone is being turned off and I'm hiding from people as much as possible.

[sneaky]

Originally Posted by DFB FGXR6

The phone is being turned off and I'm hiding from people as much as possible.

one of my most relaxing holidays to date was a week spent in Byron Bay (5 years ago before it really got ruined by influencers and celebrity).

I drove up and took my swag, camping chair, and a stack of books. I turned the phone off and did a lot of nothing. no partner to consider, no kids to look after, no pets to look after. The caravan park even gave me a site as far away from other people as they could.

I woke up early, went for walks, sat in my chair in the shade reading books, and went looking for food and coffee as the need arose. And due to lack of lighting and commitments I went to bed nice and early as well.

some people couldn't get their heads around the idea that my holiday plans were to escape and hide from the world. It was magic.

[Interceptor]

So..... I'm not exactly in the best of minds atm, like so many out there.

Monday, I was on the phone dealing with a bureaucrat type who was on a money grab along the lines of "you never know how big your family is untill you win the lotto" type.

Well.... probably wasnt the brightest thing but I said something that apparently gave her concern for my well being, and pretty much the moment I asked for her supervisor, she palmed me off to him and rang the local cops.....

Before I could get the situation sorted with him, the local cops are bashing on my door, and I end up with 5 cops, 3 cop cars, 2 ambo's and an ambulance in my sleepy little 9 house cul-de-sac.... No, I didnt get a pic, and the cops palmed it off as "it shift change, the second car load of cops are taking over at 2pm".....

Tried explaining it to them that their presence was about as helpful as the aforementioned bureaucrat, and that of course people are going to upset when theyre trying to be left alone and people with an authority complex interfering in things that are quite happily cruising along are going to do more harm than good to anyones inner peace.

This is where I get told that I have the option of voluntarily getting taken to the local hospital for a mental health evaluation, or I go up in cuffs..... I question exactly what they think further interference on their part is going to achieve, and thats when I got this gem: "Thing is, if we dont take you up there for a mental health professional to evaluate, if we leave you here and the situation gets worse and you do something silly, then we're the ones who end up looking bad"

Yep..... The police admitted straight up that they're only covering their *****.....

Apparently its wrong of me to expect them to at least not admit that they dont care.....

And still people wonder why the "system" is failing the people with problems!

[FTE217]

It doesn't compute why that person passing you onto the supervisor next behind the scenes calling the cops.
Why wouldn't she have waited till your conversation finished with the suprvisor and get feedback before any other action.....
Anyway sorry to hear mate, chill hope your ok.

[Citroënbender]

Pretty much the exact same thing happened to a mate when he got stroppy with a doctor’s receptionist.

Involuntary committals often seem to be a week in duration, from my observations. A voluntary presentation usually wastes a day unless there’s a real risk assessed.

A tragedy is people who actually need intervention type help are often not the ones getting it.

[Interceptor]

Originally Posted by FTE217

It doesn't compute why that person passing you onto the supervisor next behind the scenes calling the cops.

What can I say..... Bureaucrats...... They're just "doing their job" and "following policies and procedures" whilst doing their level best to avoid having to take any responsibility....

Originally Posted by Citroënbender

Involuntary committals often seem to be a week in duration, from my observations. A voluntary presentation usually wastes a day unless there’s a real risk assessed.

In Queensland, the first step is where the gestapo drag you unwillingly to the nearest hospital to be interrogated by the resident doctor to either be kicked up the chain of legal responsibility (Resident doc -> mental health "professional") od alone knows what happens if you actually fail their examination.

The local docs seem to have a decent grasp on when the gestapo simply need to go and find someone else to harass, but what troubles me is that on a previous occasion, after wasting 7 hours of my afternoon whilst the powers that be figured out how to do their jobs, the mental health "professional" told me "Look, I'm happy to release you to go home, but I just need you to assure me you're not going to harm yourself tonight"

Tthey didnt think my response of "So, as of 6am tomorrow morning I'm golden then?" was quite as amusing as I did....

But yes..... apparently all the "professional" needs is for the person in concern to assure them that theyre not going to do anything to harm themselves there and then, and suddenly everything is ok.

If it wasnt part of the governments "system", you'd be forgiven for thinking it was a bad joke.