Has anyone here lost a baby?

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Originally Posted by Spanrz

I'm glad this has been brought up.
8 years ago, we found out that a little one was on the way, when we found at the 8th week, the baby wasn't where it was supposed to be.
Medical intervention had to happen. I had no say or choice in the matter, but just had to agree with what the doctors said. I had just finished work and found out 2 hours later that surgery was going to happen. It's been a very long hard 8 years without success. Not a day goes by that I don't think about it.
Had to learn to live with the fact that there wasn't anything I could do to help, it was the way it was.
Had to go through the emotions in the last week as we thought it may have happened again. But it was a false alarm. But the emotions weren't.
It really tests you and puts you in a position "to find yourself".
I also have a friend that also lost a child whilst being born. It is very tragic.
I can only offer my condolences, from a person that knows the pain.
We can only group together and offer our support.

Will never give up hope though.

Spanrz - hoping I can ask a few questions that you don't mind answering. Was the first pregnancy ectopic (ie in the tube)? Was the result removal of one tube? Have you since tried for 8 years without success? If so, your story is very similar to ours. We eventually tried IVF and had success first go (got lucky - and resulted in twins). Then 11 months later, the missus got pregnant naturally (not bad for one tube, and an ovary that only produced/released eggs when it felt like it). our theory is the first pregnancy helped the body work out what was needed for a natural pregnancy to occur.

Ours is a good news story in the end, but our son would be 18 already and I often think about the fact I'd have been teaching him to drive for the last 2 years or so, we'd be working on cars together etc. ie the loss or the what-ifs never leave you; you simply learn to deal with it, and time is a good healer and can turn tears to a smile eventually........