Depression, Anxiety

[T3rminator]

Originally Posted by slowsnake

This is only my opinion, its not set in stone!
Its my observations of others, my communications with them, there is a common denominator too, that common denominator is that they put the blame on their current situation everywhere but on themselves!

Its always someone or something else that caused their problems!
They, the folk I know and talk to daily have all got an issue with owning up to their own faults as people, they think they are failures, think they failed their family or parents!

Was their upbringing really that bad, some maybe be not all, what is it that makes a man want to give up and stop fighting?..and I mean stop fighting daily problems that all of us face at one time or another!
I was like every depressed person here, and it took a long time, years, decades to realise that I am the master of this ship, that I am responsible for everything that happens to that ship, me Billy, not anyone else.

Right now I am the happiest I have ever been, and I'm dying, and am happy about that, my only concern that does depress me is where my beloved 10 yr old cat ends up when I'm gone!...now that really does depress me!


Cheers Billy.

G'day Billy. Appreciate your views. Here is my experience, not sure whether "blame" is the right way to put it, some people I know who have opened up about their troubles seem to all blame themselves. I did volunteering work for CRISIS when I lived in the UK, worked with some really troubled people (homeless and addicted) and conversations always turns to what they should or shouldn't have done. I remember we had a Christmas tree set up one time, and they were free to write their thoughts and put it on the tree, and when you read it, 90% was all about how they wish they could change something about themselves.

I think its important to understand cause and consequence. One's action, and how it impact's others, can have a lasting effect on people's long term mental health. (i'm sounding like a leftie tree hugger here). First thing therapists try to uncover is your experiences during childhood. How did one interact with your grand parents and parents? etc. This is not to attribute blame, but to understand "why" so one can take steps to fix it.

What I don't get is, why we are seeing kids as young as 8 and 9 severely impacted, to the point where they see that there is no point going on. Low hanging fruit is to just "blame" things like social media". But what is it that is happening that is pushing them towards social media as the main platform for socialising and getting involved in toxic behaviour? etc. Too deep for today.