Dating 2006 - A girls view

[Poison Ivy]

Originally Posted by ED Classic

I can give you one answer to solve everything! Its the modern age with equal oppurtunity so when you find the guy you think fits your criteria Why cant you ask him out?

I will, I'm not saying that I don't ask guys out, because I have, on many occasions.

[xe351]

I dont think its too much to ask at all, it lets you know how serious they are about you/relationship. Society is just messed up..... we seem to live in an ''its all about me'' society, where people are out for self, which i suppose would kinda have a destructive effect on relationships. Just a thought.....

[XRQTOR]

Originally Posted by Poison Ivy

I will, I'm not saying that I don't ask guys out, because I have, on many occasions.

SO where's the problem, if your asking them out what are you doing wrong to make them run.

[Bucket]

How many blokes here have had a girl actually approach them and ask you on a date??
For me it was high school...

[TURBO_GHIA]

never ,had one crack onto me and start kissing me ,she was very drunk and was a bit of a turnoff and i was seeing someone at the time

[WILDTRAKPX2]

Tomato sauce. Bugger, wrong thread again.

[gtfpv]

i have a question . when i was younger , women i dated most of them said , that i have tickets on myself.
what does that mean ?? is it good or bad?? i guess i'm still the same . ???

is it a compliment or an insult . i've never been able to interpret this .

[BAUTE]

Originally Posted by Bucket

How many blokes here have had a girl actually approach them and ask you on a date??
For me it was high school...

never

[fiery]

Originally Posted by gtfpv

i have a question . when i was younger , women i dated most of them said , that i have tickets on myself.
what does that mean ?? is it good or bad?? i guess i'm still the same . ???

is it a compliment or an insult . i've never been able to interpret this .

Well if I have said it to someone it is generally meaning they think they are better than others..

So I would be thinking it was a bad thing to have said to you unless it was in a joking way (being funny, stirring etc).

Otherwise it is pretty much an insult

[FRDXR6]

Originally Posted by Bucket

How many blokes here have had a girl actually approach them and ask you on a date??
For me it was high school...

I havnt actually had a chick ask me out on a date, but i have had a few come up to me in clubs and stuff. Usually chicks that approach guys aern't the greatest if they have to come up to you, but some have also been fairly hot. I guess in the end it comes down to how many beers i have had

Also i think as our lives become busier and busier, theres less time for all the old skool courtship stuff. Im in my early 20's and definantly dont wanna be tied up in a relationship, i enjoy going out when i want and doing what i like with nothing holding me back and of course no nagging or lectures for going out with the boys instead of watching a movie.

Originally Posted by GTFPV

have a question . when i was younger , women i dated most of them said , that i have tickets on myself.
what does that mean ?? is it good or bad?? i guess i'm still the same . ???

is it a compliment or an insult . i've never been able to interpret this .

Usually bad, 'tickets' means your arrogant/love yourself i.e have tickets on yourself :

[xf_vanner]

I agree with you there, it isnt hard to dress up a little, cleanly shaven and wear deodorant. Hell im a male and single and Im having trouble with girls. Whats with them? They seem to fall for the idiots. I have a full-time job like going out, in my early twenties, single yet i seem to have trouble taking them out. Hey where do u live Ivy? I'll take you out you sound like you need some fun and sick of dead beats. We seem to have the same problem

[LTDHO]

Originally Posted by Bucket

How many blokes here have had a girl actually approach them and ask you on a date??
For me it was high school...

Never.

I wouldn't mind it. For once it would be nice for the bloke to get the compliment.

[EFFalcon]

Originally Posted by Bucket

How many blokes here have had a girl actually approach them and ask you on a date??
For me it was high school...

i have once, was great
but she knew i was gunna say yes.

[chich]

Originally Posted by fiery

Well you certainly wouldn't hold my interest then longer for about 5seconds..

That sort of game playing is boring and childish in my books... but then I guess I can't really talk cos I am single :
So whatever I am doing is damn well not working either :newangel:

You call that game playing? I'll give you an example of game playing as 'played' by one of your kind. On my way to work this morning i was listening to the radio and sure enough they were talking about dates gone wrong. A guy called up and said the following (in summarised form):

- Picked up a girl out one night
- Organised to catch up with her one night
- Took her out to dinner and a movie (the night cost him $250!)
- Dropped the lady off at home (no advances for action on his behalf)
- She turns around and says "Oh, by the way - I have a boyfriend"

WTF!!!

.... and here you are whining that you can't find a decent man. No s**t - your own kind are out there taking advantage of decent guys and burning them. This my lady is how males turn to pricks.

[Outbackjack]

Originally Posted by chich

You call that game playing? I'll give you an example of game playing as 'played' by one of your kind. On my way to work this morning i was listening to the radio and sure enough they were talking about dates gone wrong. A guy called up and said the following (in summarised form):

- Picked up a girl out one night
- Organised to catch up with her one night
- Took her out to dinner and a movie (the night cost him $250!)
- Dropped the lady off at home (no advances for action on his behalf)
- She turns around and says "Oh, by the way - I have a boyfriend"

WTF!!!

.... and here you are whining that you can't find a decent man. No s**t - your own kind are out there taking advantage of decent guys and burning them. This my lady is how males turn to pricks.

Been there myself, spent a fortnight with a "lady" . Cost a fortune, no hanky panky, but we had a great time and I thought the future was looking fairly promising. Then when I asked if she wanted to catch the next day, her reply was, I cant, I have to pick up my husband fron the airport. He was away for a few weeks and I was her break from boredom, oh and the fact she had 2 great weeks that were heavily subsidised was also a bonus I guess.

Yes, men can turn cynical fairly quickly.

[chich]

Originally Posted by Outbackjack

Been there myself, spent a fortnight with a "lady" . Cost a fortune, no hanky panky, but we had a great time and I thought the future was looking fairly promising. Then when I asked if she wanted to catch the next day, her reply was, I cant, I have to pick up my husband fron the airport. He was away for a few weeks and I was her break from boredom, oh and the fact she had 2 great weeks that were heavily subsidised was also a bonus I guess.

Yes, men can turn cynical fairly quickly.

If i were you I would've gotten in contact with the husband (where there's a will there is a way) and would've demanded he pay back the $$ his wh*re of a 'wife' extracted from your wallet.

[fiery]

Originally Posted by chich

.... and here you are whining that you can't find a decent man. No s**t - your own kind are out there taking advantage of decent guys and burning them. This my lady is how males turn to pricks.

And you think that men don't treat women like crap.. :

I should be bitter and twisted but life is to short and I always look for a positive in every negative...

Men and women are both crappy breeds at times.. but I for one have learnt to treat each man I meet on his own merit (no matter how crappy I have been treated or how many times I have been burnt)...

You think women turn men to pricks but what about the men that turn us women into b!tches....

[fiery]

Originally Posted by Outbackjack

Been there myself, spent a fortnight with a "lady" . Cost a fortune, no hanky panky, but we had a great time and I thought the future was looking fairly promising. Then when I asked if she wanted to catch the next day, her reply was, I cant, I have to pick up my husband fron the airport. He was away for a few weeks and I was her break from boredom, oh and the fact she had 2 great weeks that were heavily subsidised was also a bonus I guess.

Yes, men can turn cynical fairly quickly.

Originally Posted By Chich
If i were you I would've gotten in contact with the husband

I actually agree with Chich on this.. you should have let the husband know.. how disgraceful....

Just remember guys that not all women are like that.. some yes, not all

[chich]

Originally Posted by fiery

And you think that men don't treat women like crap.. :

I should be bitter and twisted but life is to short and I always look for a positive in every negative...

Men and women are both crappy breeds at times.. but I for one have learnt to treat each man I meet on his own merit (no matter how crappy I have been treated or how many times I have been burnt)...

You think women turn men to pricks but what about the men that turn us women into b!tches....

I never said that men don't treat women like crap. To be prerfectly honest, i think this is how the current generations selfish mindset came to being... men lying to women to get them in the sack then dumping them lick a bag of cr*p when the deed was done. However in the year 2006 the tables have somewhat turned and the women are now beginning to play games. Where this whole thing ends only the big man upstairs knows. Personally, i think people will resort to the old fashioned method of introduction - PROXY!!

At the end of the day my personal belief is that you need to be a good judge of character and know what to ask, know what to do and when to do it in order to fully sus someone out. The only way you can become better at this is to learn not only from your mistakes, but from those of others as well.

[fiery]

Originally Posted by chich

At the end of the day my personal belief is that you need to be a good judge of character and know what to ask, know what to do and when to do it in order to fully sus someone out. The only way you can become better at this is to learn not only from your mistakes, but from those of others as well.

I agree with what you say totally.... It is sad when it comes to that but as you say its the way things are now...

Geez your making me think staying single is the way to go :

[mr_xr8]

Originally Posted by Bucket

How many blokes here have had a girl actually approach them and ask you on a date??

never

[AU1FORME]

Originally Posted by Poison Ivy

I’ve been lurking around this site for ages but felt the need to sign up & post what my thoughts are in regards to dating in 2006 for us ladies, considering the majority of the population of this site are males, I’d like to know what you think about the following.

I’ve been on a few dates recently & I must say, I’m pretty disappointed about the effort or lack there of that is displayed by men these days.

I’m a single woman who is in her mid 20’s, I have a good job, a nice car, great friends & family, I have a stable job & I’m honest & upfront, I have no baggage & a great sense of humor but yet I find it harder & harder to meet a guy who wants to put in the effort to get to know me before he starts thinking below the belt.

What has happened to the days when guys asked girls out? When a guy picks a girl up from her house & drops her off without expecting something else? Are these days dead? What has happened to dating?

I think it would be nice for a guy to put some effort in. And when I say effort I mean, nice clean clothes, a shave, aftershave or cologne, deodorant (this should not be an effort but surprisingly to some it is). Is this asking too much? I don’t think so because I’m sure if a girl turned up to a date without any deodorant on the guy would be doing a runner in no time.

I’ve also noticed a rapid decrease in guys having the guts to ask a girl out, who gives a rats if you get rejected, at least you’re giving it a go, 9 times out of 10 I’m sure the girl will be flattered & say yes. If it doesn’t work out, don’t dismiss the girl, she might have a friend who is ideal for you. I have set up many friends, that have turned into long term relationships or marriages but if a guy acts like a jerk or treats me disrespectfully there’s no way I’d want to set him up with someone else.

So single guys out there, please shed some light on what your thoughts are on what I’ve said, because I’m rapidly starting to think that there are no decent single gentlemen out there anymore. And before anyone says I’m after a metrosexual, no that is not what I want, I just want a guy who thinks that its worth a little extra effort to impress a girl.

Sounds good to me Will you go out with me on friday night , I am on the Gold Coast, I am divorced, have a good job , great cars and Bike , nice friends, Not alot of family, no baggage. and I have plenty of guts to ask someone out

what do you say.

[bjr22n_]

Originally Posted by Bucket

How many blokes here have had a girl actually approach them and ask you on a date??
For me it was high school...

I have never had the guts to ask any girl out... they have all approached me and i don't consider myself goodlooking or hot, even my current girlfriend approached me and asked me on a date. i was stunned.

she gave me her number and i gave her mine.

i SMS her where she lived and wam bam thank you maam...

i showed up with a bunch of flowers and my best cleanest suit (well i had the 3 of them dry cleaned that morning).

Took her out for tea, tho we paid for our meals (i offered to pay for the lot, but she paid for meal)
then she requested that I take her home... and all i got was a : ... _2: :voldar02: :

that was 2 years and 1 week ago now, haven't looked back since. :

[Papa Smurf]

Let me just say from an OLDER bloke's POV that I find many young ladies today, like a few of the young fellows here say, are most ASSUREDLY rude and totally wrapped in themselves.

When I was younger it was a great thing to have a young lady agree to go out with you and my Mum would be on me to treat the lady like a lady and My Dad would tell me to be a Man and not a lout. Now, it seems that the opposite is much better received?
My Sons were taught the same way that I received and I am proud to say that they have lovely families with Wives that love them and in return are treated like the ladies they are.

I have had women look me up and down because I deemed it gentlemanly to open a door or to stand up on a train for one? I even had a young lady call me an OLD perv because I offered to help her with two bags off a train? All of this doesn't help young fellows of today to try for a date with a young lady.

I sure hope the trend does change from BOTH sides. I have seen blokes who would be kicked out of a mens smoko. Trousers that just about hang off their bu** and hats that are for some other form of life and of course, DUMP the American speak :(

Poison Ivy, I certainly hope you find a nice young fellow to go out with and maybe to share the rest of your life with. Just remember that not all the shy guys have nothing to offer?

[vztrt]

Originally Posted by Bucket

How many blokes here have had a girl actually approach them and ask you on a date??
For me it was high school...

Not really come up to me and ask but twice on two seperate occations I've had mates try to pick up a girl only to be told that they wanted me.

Also my last ex gave me her number after meeting her for the first time at my old job, mind you I didn't think she wanted me to ask her out as I'm hopeless with signals, without me asking.

Actually I have had a friend of mine ask me out, but I turned her down as I didn't have those feelings. I think she mixed up the fact that I was trying to cheer her up with me trying to crack onto her.

[eb2fairmont]

I could be blunt here....and what the hell.....

You know if you pay a hooker for sex, at least you're being honest and upfront, and there's guaranteed service delivery. No nasty surprises unless you don't wear a condom.

[XRQTOR]

Originally Posted by eb2fairmont

I could be blunt here....and what the hell.....

You know if you pay a hooker for sex, at least you're being honest and upfront, and there's guaranteed service delivery. No nasty surprises unless you don't wear a condom.

If throwing a sausage in a bucket is your thing go for it, besides STD's are a great way to earn flyby's with the regular visit's to the doctor and all.

[fiery]

Originally Posted by XRQTOR

If throwing a sausage in a bucket is your thing go for it, besides STD's are a great way to earn flyby's with the regular visit's to the doctor and all.

:evil_laug

:monkes:

[4.9 EF Futura]

Poison Ivy (and ladies across the land)... you need to encourage chivalrous behaviour, as most guys are just confused beyond all comprehension in this day and age. Having been in and around the dating traps over recent years (with little success might i add lol), the message coming collectively from females is very confusing.

You finally get a foot in the door, get the courage up, gain the opportunity... whatever... to ask a girl out. Assuming you get a positive response... and assuming you've timed the phonecall perfectly. Not "too soon" (too eager) and not "too late" (a bastard).

You ask what time they would like to be picked up. An offer of convinience, an offer to make the lady's life a little bit easier.

Only to find out that it is a faux-pas. Apparently the lady wants to drive herself, wants some independence, doesnt want to rely on the guy for a lift home if the date goes poorly. I've had dates cancel for this very reason.

Open the door for your date? Apparently trying too hard. No good.

Pay for dinner? Apparently trying to show off $$$. No good.

Wear a shirt and a tie? Again - apparently trying too hard. No good.

Oh... that's if you're allowed the opportunity to take said lady to dinner. Apparently "dinner and a movie" is outdated now? Apparently makes for a crap date? Dinner is "too personal" and movies dont allow sufficient interaction.

Right.

Out for a drink? Oh... must just be trying to get her p***ed so I can have my way with her. Try coffee instead.

Saturday night? Aparently this is another faux-pas. I believe we're expected to pick a less-hectic night for the young lady's scheduling. God forbid we disturb any other potential social outings. Give thursday night a shot hey?

There is a consistent theme where behaving in a chilvalrous manner is "trying too hard", there is an implication there that its seen as dishonest behavious "oh, guys will do anything to get inside our pants"

So here i am. Thursday afternoon, for coffee (which we pay for seperately), after she catches the bus into town, opening her own doors the entire time. I'm searching for ways to demonstrate gentleman-like behaviour, but need to be careful i dont come across as too needy/desperate/sleasy/etc.

A slight deviation from the original plan of picking said girl up at 8, taking to a nice resteraunt for a good meal and a nice glass of wine followed by a short stroll or... god forbid... late screening at the movies.

Confused? Doesnt begin to describe it. Old fashioned? Probably. But when did that become a "bad thing"?

Maybe the girls i date all watch too much 'sex in the city'??? lol

I assure you that chivalry is not dead. But its too often confused with being a slease, surely it comes as no suprise that we are cautious about such displays?

[stera]

With the risk of getting bashed and abused... Verbally (!!).. I'd like to add my two cents...

Where to start...

You need to be honest and true to yourself... You can look in the mirror and see exactly whats there. If your smoking hot, half your luck... But you need to be far more careful when approaching women than, 'average' looking men. Thats the trick tho, approaching women.

'Hot' women get approached 10, 20, 30 times a day, by all types that have already been covered in this thread (ferals, I think you were refering to). The problem is, you need to look at the attitude these guys are taking... They are saying, right, this women is attractive, I can approach her, say a few things and if things go well, good... If not... Learn from the mistake and try again. Everybody is too scared by fear.

Whats the worse that can happen? They will reject you? SO WHAT? Their loss. If you approach someone and have a really good conversation (keep it short) and you ask for their number or email and they say, Oh, I have a partner... Say thats ok, give me a call when your ready to upgrade.

Go into shops where people of the opposite sex are PAID to talk to you. Go into a department store to the perfume section and ask the women to help you choose. Spray two different sprays on yourself and ask the women which they prefer... After they reply, u say, Hmm, I knew you would say that one... Then tell them to give you and honest opinion, as you wana be a chick magnet... Play it... Think of a person, say James Bond, Mr Cool... If you look daggy, you act daggy... If you look and feel good, people get the vibe...

I dont know... Im not very emotional... I think that if people are too scared to do something, thats their fault... Get out there... Do things... Each day you live is one less day you have.

Know what your going to say... and say it... Approach 50 people a day in the mall and make mistakes, but like everything, the more u do it, the better you will get!

Clean your house, clean your car... FIRE UP !!

Adopt NIKE... JUST DO IT !!