What do I do?

[Ringo]

Dump her.....and play 'Solitary Man' by Neil Diamond a few times.....

[Ringo]

Had a think about it and decided that you probably too young to know the song....so posted the lyrics...

Written by: neil diamond

Melinda was mine
til the time
That I found her
Holding jim
Loving him

Then sue came along
Loved me strong
Thats what I thought
Me and sue
But that died too

Dont know that I will
But until I can find me
A girl who'll stay
And wont play games behind me
Ill be what I am
A solitary man
Solitary man

Ive had it to here
Bein where
Loves a small world
Part-time thing
Paper ring

I know its been done
Having one
Girl wholl love me
Right or wrong
Weak or strong

Dont know that I will
But until I can find me
The girl wholl stay
And wont play games behind me
Ill be what I am
A solitary man
Solitary man

[Bucket]

Originally Posted by Ringo

Had a think about it and decided that you probably too young to know the song....so posted the lyrics...

Funny that Ringo,
"Solitary Man" was my Anthem going through my Break Up

[SPK-250]

Very, very fishy. STAKE THAT WOMAN OUT!!! If my woman did that i would near employ the army or star force to stake her out to find out if she really is cheating. If you go an just talk to her she'll probably just throw you another furfee, it could be innocent but if she is playing the feild and YOU dont know about because she has lied to you then she'll probably have no problem continuing the charade.

[ED Classic]

Originally Posted by pb02

How is she screwed? It's just extra travel time.... Your not the one ruining her chances, she is! (if she is messing around)

If she doesn't respect you enough to honest and up front about things why should you live in misery just because it's more convenient for her to be living with you for her career!

GROW SOME NADS MAN!!!!! :

Yeah well said!

[ED Classic]

Originally Posted by Bucket

Don't stake her out...If she is doing this behind your back you'll scar yourself permanently if you see what she's up to.
If not, well you dont want her to see you spying on her because that will destroy the trust you have in your relationship (admittedly, it looks like its a little shot at the moment anyway)

I agree with this too. As much as its hard for us men to leave behind our caveman bloodline ways it wont for the best to stake her out or even start checking with friends etc.

[FGX-351]

Originally Posted by gozza

If it was me i would have already cracked....Going out till early morning alone with any bloke i did no know personally would have flipped my lid....Not the best advice from this end but when he drops her home next time...follow him and break his legs

What he said!

[sprjenkins]

The fact is dude you have to know and the only way to know for sure, 100% is to catch them in the act. I've been in a similar situation and i'm still ****ed off 4 years down the track that I don't know for sure. Then if you need help digging a hole out in the bush...

[XR06T]

its a tough one mate!

like someone said, could be something more than cheating, dont rule that out..
taking the phone to the shower = REAL dodgy imo.. proves that she is hiding something.

i would be sitting her down and have a chat for sure. if it seems dodgy, more often than not is! there is something to be worried about thats for sure!

if it was me i rekon i would be doing what she is, and see how she feels about it.. nothin wrong with a little investigation by your mates either imo.

best of luck with it anyway, and post up when you have a resolution/need more advice

[Sourbastard]

dont do anything, mope around the house, cry yourself to sleep, avoid eye contact with her and dont touch her naughty bits, cry some more, eat only yogurt and dry sao biscuits, wrap yourself in a blanket and hide under the desk and it will all be resolved.

with you or without you

[***BOMBER***]

Originally Posted by EL_661

So,

Lately my girlfriend of two years has been acting strange, really strange. But mainly noticible this weekend.

SO I get home from fishing on saturday night and she says "oh, I'm going out with a friend tonight." Yeah yeah I'm fine with that, just be quiet when ya get home. SO I ask who she is going with and she stutters a bit and says 'Josh' I said whos he. she said an old friend, I trust her so I accept it, fine see ya later.

Anyway, she leaves at 9. I get this text from a mate at midnight saying, 'I just saw your gf with some guy alone driving' mmm getting a bit suss now. So I get my mate to suss things out, he followed them for a bit until the car went to a dark lookout on a range road, he just kept driving and texted me what he saw. Even more suss now. Anyway she gets home at 4 in the morning, jumps into bed.

I wake up in the morning and ask her what she got up to, she started getting all nervy, and said some crap like she went clubbing and stuff. SO I thought ok, I'll play along see what happens.

All day long sunday she is clutching her mobile, texting every 5 mins, talking on it. And really didnt want anything to do with me.

Monday morning comes, ok I thought I'll take a look at her phone...Where is it?? She took it into the shower with her!!!

So the whole week has been the same, really secretive...jumpy, etc.

And tonight about 20 mins ago, she says she is going out with 'Josh' again and she doesnt know when she'll be home...I texted n said 'where are you' and she texted back and said 'car park near the bike tracks at the uni'

I know for a fact cos I ride bikes that it's very dark there, etc etc

Anyway, I've never had to deal with something like this before and I'm at loss of what to do??? Do I go to where they are and do a bit of a stakeout?

I'm gonna be devostated if she is doing anything....but from what I can see is happening, it's doesn't seem good.

Advice anyone, please!

Mate, grow some nuts, dump the slut and find someone else......easy

[sprjenkins]

Just remember, Love does not hurt. Chuck Norris does.

[naddis01]

Just look at the phone if you dont want to confront her

[XRated]

Bloody hell fellas! Some of you are a bit rough! Yeah the guy needs to do something, but I don't think telling him to grow balls and calling his girlfriend of two years a slut is going to give him the answer or confidence he needs. (Yes, I do think something's suss...)

The guy has obviously never been in this situation and doesn't know what to do. Obviously something needs to be done because a relationship is nothing without the trust.

I can tell you what, I don't care if I sound like a tight-arrse or anything, but if my girlfriend blatantly said she was hanging out with a guy I'd be demanding answers. She doesn't now and if she suddenly decided to she'd be walking. I don't go out solo with other females because I respect her enough that it might make her feel uncomfortable, and chances are if I was to it'd be for the wrong reasons. I've done it before, and I've had it done to me before.

I think deep down you know what's going on without asking us. I'd simply find out if she is "seeing" Josh, and if so, no more questions. Leave it at that. Trust me, you don't want to know details... Swallow your pride, say what you feel/think of her, then move on without looking back.

By the way, it seems most of us have had it happen to us at one stage or another and I'm sure there are plenty of us who have done it too. It's pretty sad. I've learnt from my mistakes in the past, I'm just thankful I learnt before I found the person I truly respect and want to be with.

Good luck whatever happens mate.

[Marto GT]

GO TO THE PUB, I always find i am happy there, and give her time if she doesnt come running after you after spending a bit of time there then you know things arent going to well.

[sprjenkins]

I wonder if its the same d1ckhead "josh" i was having a similar problem with my gf two years ago, lol

[robjh80]

What the .........!!

You must be one of these "Sensitive New Age Guys" or perhaps one of those "Caring Understanding Ninties Types we all keep hearing about.

You know the types that women want all us blokes to be........apparantly?, but then when they get that they then decide that isn't in fact what they wanted after all "sigh"......."who can figure them out?"......."who even trys"

Sod that for a joke..........ask her to hand ya trousers back, she's obviously the one wearing them in this relationship!!

............. tell her to push off with old "what's his name" and good riddance, she's playing mind games with you mate and trying to treat you like a dog in the process, you go show her who's running the shop.

[AussieJason]

Originally Posted by robjh80

You know the types that women want all us blokes to be........apparantly?, but then when they get that they then decide that isn't in fact what they wanted after all "sigh

Well that's what usually happens to me. And you know where it gets me ? Nowhere. They end up leaving for some loser who treats them like dirt again.

Women...

[GK]

Originally Posted by XRated

if my girlfriend blatantly said she was hanging out with a guy I'd be demanding answers.

Face her and ask her straight out. You deserve the truth and she owes it to you, even though she may try to weasel out of it. It may rip your heart out, but stay calm and try to keep it together. No matter what some people think, you can't make someone love you. If she wants out, even though it hurts, you can't make her stay, let her go. Tell her she has 2 days to move out, and if she doesn't, you put her stuff out into the street. Don't help her with the move.

It's not to get even, I don't believe in that; it's about her learning to respect decent boundaries, which she apparently cannot. You deserve better, you hold your head high son and show her just that!

You do not owe her the place to stay and the help with her career etc. This is the mess she made for the both of you. She needs to show some integrity and own up to it, and accept the consequences of her actions.

All the best with it young fella!

GK

[tyxr8ute]

The unknown/assumption/guessing will always be worse than the truth! You are best to find out now before going any further with the relationship. As for worrying about her... no offence but that's rediculous, I would be home packing her things because if she is playing around she deserves NO help!!!!!!!! Good luck

Pity I read this now because I just flew out from Cairns today from business and would have been happy to do a stake out

[GXL078]

LOL at Caring, Understanding, Nineties Types. The accronym for that would be?

[sprjenkins]

Ever seen the movie Jarhead. Send her a movie of you screwing her sister/best friend/neighbour. The closer to her the better.

[debacle-racing]

mate, just hang a **** in her handbag and **** her off.
or root her best mate. remember two wrongs do make a right!!

[rust]

What are you in love or something mate.I agree with previous post especially the sh!t in her handbag bit.If you let them treat you like that your ****** mate.Your meant to be the one screwing around on her.

[debacle-racing]

i think you should have started the post by wiriting 'Dear Dolly'
you will be fine mate, turf her and get a new tighter model.

[Deviateboy]

Been in this situation b4, Only let it go on one night though....Told her where to go!
Or you could do like the korean guy in Virginia...just shoot her and him though, it's not anyone elses fault! ha ha
Only JOKING
Just a55 her out, she doesn't deserve your sympathy!

[WRP11]

ok??? 48 hours later... maybe he took her and Josh on a boat ride up north Qld...??

[Kommandant]

Hahaha, sorry but I had to laugh at WRP11's post.

Yeah mate like others have said, and I have before, do nothing else but ask her straight in the face.

[XR6_661]

Well,

I ended it with her last night. I didn't do the stakeout, to be honest I didn't wanna know what she was doing as I would have wound up in jail or something...

So I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders, I'm ready to live life the way a 19 yr old does and spend plenty of cash on my car!!

Thanks for all your help guys too, much appreciated. I dare say my decision was helped along by what has been suggested.

Bring on the girls and booze!!!!!! :jab:

Oh and she has 24 hours to get out of my house ;-)

[naxh96]

man read the rest of this thread and its advice and well done on taking it. i'm 19 too and after 2+ years in a relationship i have found single life to be the bomb. give yourself a few rebounds and randoms before the next big relationship and you'll be right.

work hard. be good to your EL