just a question

[car10002]

hi

just a question, when people are at a certain age like 18 plus and still live with parents and they want more control over their lives how do they go about it all,

if going from there is the way, can they still have more control over their lives with their stuff if they dont want to leave parents or theyre happy staying there, how do they get around it all if they stay at parents and are happy doing so.

just intrested to know how people do it

[sprintman1]

Originally Posted by car10002

hi

just a question, when people are at a certain age like 18 plus and still live with parents and they want more control over their lives how do they go about it all,

if going from there is the way, can they still have more control over their lives with their stuff if they dont want to leave parents or theyre happy staying there, how do they get around it all if they stay at parents and are happy doing so.

just intrested to know how people do it

Pay board!

[car10002]

Originally Posted by sprintman1

Pay board!

if you do pay board how do 18 plus yr olds live by their own rules with their stuff while living in parents house

[GasoLane]

Originally Posted by car10002

if you do pay board how do 18 plus yr olds live by their own rules with their stuff while living in parents house

There's one member on here who is 24 (I think) runs his own successful business, has 5 registered cars and lives with his Mum and Dad.

[buggerlugs]

Originally Posted by GasOLane

There's one member on here who is 24 (I think) runs his own successful business, has 5 registered cars and lives with his Mum and Dad.

Spends a lot of time in the loo to

[car10002]

anyone else know???

[Captain Stubing]

Comes down to how the parents and the young adult communicate, the parents have to realise their child has grown up, but the grown up child still has to respect their parents rules. Both parties have to sit down, and agree on ground rules.

[noddy383]

Originally Posted by swanny

Comes down to how the parents and the young adult communicate, the parents have to realise their child has grown up, but the grown up child still has to respect their parents rules. Both parties have to sit down, and agree on ground rules.

This is pretty much it.
I lived at home until I was 25, paid board and was working fulltime. I turned 18 at the same time as I graduated high school, so after that I stopped asking permission to go out and it was more letting the folks know whether to expect me home for dinner or if I'd be home in the morning or whatever.
I paid for my own clothes, car, hobbies etc. and basically did my own thing, but like when living with anyone else, there have to be rules and guidelines between housemates.
Every now and again, we'd sit down and discuss how things were working.

If you want to change how things work between you and the people you live with, be it parents, friends or just housemates, sitting down and having a candid conversation. Make sure you know specifically what you want before you do it to avoid confusion or causing offence.

[Beastie]

Originally Posted by noddy383

This is pretty much it.
I lived at home until I was 25, paid board and was working fulltime. I turned 18 at the same time as I graduated high school, so after that I stopped asking permission to go out and it was more letting the folks know whether to expect me home for dinner or if I'd be home in the morning or whatever.
I paid for my own clothes, car, hobbies etc. and basically did my own thing, but like when living with anyone else, there have to be rules and guidelines between housemates.
Every now and again, we'd sit down and discuss how things were working.

If you want to change how things work between you and the people you live with, be it parents, friends or just housemates, sitting down and having a candid conversation. Make sure you know specifically what you want before you do it to avoid confusion or causing offence.

Perfect answer! Good on ya!

[Phildo]

Originally Posted by GasOLane

There's one member on here who is 24 (I think) runs his own successful business, has 5 registered cars and lives with his Mum and Dad.

How's his sex life?

Lots of girlfriends?

Guessing it all has to happen at their place, huh.

[Yellow_Festiva]

Originally Posted by Phildo

How's his sex life?

Lots of girlfriends?

Guessing it all has to happen at their place, huh.

C'mon... you were young once!

You missed the fact he has 5 cars!

Think about it.....

[Franco Cozzo]

Originally Posted by Phildo

How's his sex life?

Lots of girlfriends?

Guessing it all has to happen at their place, huh.

I've got 5 cars, I don't have the money for a sex life

I got home last night at 11PM after work so I literally said hello to the parents when I walked in, then jumped in the shower, got out, said good night and jumped into bed

Im from wog background, I could live at home until I'm 70 and parents would be fine with it

P.S Im on the crapper

[car10002]

How do people get the say or be able to not ask permission with their stuff while they still happily staying at parents houses

Is there one day sessions you can go to get a few more living skills and better money management skills as don't have time for weekly commitments anymore due to other things.

Just wondered how it all works that's all

[Yellow_Festiva]

There are no set rules.

Work hard, always be good to your parents and respect their wishes while you are still under their roof.

Offer to pay some bills, come home with some shopping without being asked, surprise them to a cooked dinner or a load of washing on the line.

You want to be treated like an adult start acting like one.

Speak to them and ask their advice. You may not like their wisdom but remember they were your age once and have gone through it all already.

As for money. Make more and spend less. Buy what you need, remembering that you will eventually move several times and you will regret all the useless junk that you didn't really need.

Start doing your own taxes, start arranging and paying your own car expenses.

Moving out is tough but you will know when the time is right.

[noddy383]

It tends to be a gradual thing, a shift from child to adult. It takes time (years) to develop. If you're concerned that your folks are treating you like a kids, maybe try showing initiative and offer to do more work around the house.
This is also a great way to learn domestic living skills. I did a fair bit of house-sitting in my younger days, it taught me how to shop, cook basic dishes and basic cleaning. Then you get to go home without paying rent or bills.

I'm not sure what courses there are around, but if you start offering to help cooking dinner, you'll pick up how long things take to cook and how to prep them. Help out with the washing and cleaning and it will all get easier. As with mechanical skills (something I'm short on), domestic skills take time and experience to learn and develop, but take your time and pick things that aren't to far out of your comfort zone and start there.
If you can cook meat and 3 veg and do a load of washing, you can survive for a week.

[lra]

Pay a reasonable amount of board to help pay the electricity, rates etc......
Be respectful, they are paying for the house you are living in......if you have a problem with that...change your attitude, or rack off and fend for yourself.
If you are still relying on mum to cook your meals, be with the family before the meal is served and help out. Don’t reluctantly leave your computer game, scoff you meal, leave the dirty plates and disappear. If you are not going to be home for a meal, let them know in advance.
Don’t chuck your dirty clothes on the floor and expect mum to clean up....learn how to use the washing machine and clothes line.
Don’t let your room look, and smell like a footballers change room
If you are going out at night, tell them what time you intend to be be home. They don’t need to know what you are doing, but they don’t want you lying in a bloody mess in a gutter, and nobody except the cops and ambos care.
Don’t surprise them in the morning with an unexpected guest of the opposite or same sex.

[car10002]

Just wondered how it all works that's all

[Adamz Ghia]

I lived at home till I was 26, and not once did we have any issues with each other. I cooked, paid bills, called if I wasn't coming home that night, and still managed to have friends over, we all had food cooked for us. The only reason I left was because I met my better half and we decided we wanted to live together. Otherwise I'd still be there having someone else pay my mortgage for me.

It really comes down to consideration. That simple.

[TUF_302]

My brother still lives at home and he's nearly 27, currently out of work so suits him, and he has heaps of expensive toys

[XB GS 351 Coupe]

Originally Posted by car10002

if you do pay board how do 18 plus yr olds live by their own rules with their stuff while living in parents house

They don't, it's your parents house so it's their rules. If you don't like it get your own place.

[XB GS 351 Coupe]

Originally Posted by TUF_302

My brother still lives at home and he's nearly 27, currently out of work so suits him, and he has heaps of expensive toys

Surly at 27 it's well past looking after yourself time...

[Adamz Ghia]

Originally Posted by XB GS 351 Coupe

Surly at 27 it's well past looking after yourself time...

Maybe he doesn't want to live on his own? Honestly that's why I stayed as long as I did, even though I own a house I didn't want to live on my own, too quiet. Cooking for one annoys me as well.

Don't get me wrong there's plenty who need a boot in the bum and taught a lesson or two, but for some it probably genuinely suits all parties.

[TUF_302]

Originally Posted by XB GS 351 Coupe

Surly at 27 it's well past looking after yourself time...

He did move out for a couple years and was about to buy his own place but ended being made redundant so that destroyed those plans, but as of today he now works full time for Toyota

[danzvtil]

I would love to move back in to my childhood home and save stacks of money, unfortunately, my mum lives there, so for sanitys sake it wouldn't work.

[fordomatic]

I moved out of home when i was 17, things were great at home i simply wanted the freedom to do what i wanted. It was one of the best things i have ever done for myself.

Some of my mates lived at home until mid twenties to save deposits for houses, i think that's a great plan as long as you make it work for you. I was just too independent and wanted to do things my way, that's the only reason i moved out when i did.

With the current generation there is a trend of people staying at home because it's too tough out there on your own. If your not moving out because you are scared of the real world i don't think thats a good reason to stay at home.

[Ben73]

I lived at home until I was 21. I had saved a deposit for a house and moved straight out of my parents house into my own.
When I got my P's at 17 I became pretty independent. My parents didn't mind what I did (within reason) once I was 18 even more so. We never had any arguments over conflicting opinions of what I should or shouldn't be doing.

My best mate was the complete opposite. When he was 18 he was still asking his mum for permission to do things. But that's just the way his mum is. She is an overprotective. He has had several different girlfriends since aged 17 and his mum absolutely hates every one of them. No one is good enough for her baby.

[staity]

Originally Posted by noddy383

If you can cook meat and 3 veg and do a load of washing, you can survive for a week.

Those skills got me through 3 years!!!

[MITCHAY]

Well unless you pay board don't expect to have any say at all and even then it will be cheap.

I'm 29 still at home but have paid between $40-50k in board so far + bills but still don't have it all my way. Cheapest room you will get though which allows you to save a **** load of cash for your own place.

Only problem is that you can't bring chicks back to mummy's house because it is weird At least when I get my own place I will own 20% or more before I get the keys

[.:4:.]

Unfortunately I lived at home untill I was 22, mind you home turned into a waterfront penthouse when I was 18 which was not long before my girlfriend moved in, then at 22 had my son, 23 rented a house bought the car, 24 got married and got the boat, 25 bought the house... its a lot of hard work, and the best way I find to afford it is long hours and hard work, but it works for me

[.:4:.]

I'm 29 by the way