Wedding Nerves

SVTVNM · 07-06-2010, 10:28 AM

Hey Guys, Just having some down time at work and was just going over some wedding stuff, originally I thought i would not get nervous but as the day draws closer (19 days) I am starting to get nervous, Big time. So I thought I would start this thread and find out what it was like for others as the big day neared for them.

Scott · 07-06-2010, 10:38 AM

Time to ditch her man, 19 days is still a gentlemanly time to scarper. Run like the wind brother, run like the wind.

max · 07-06-2010, 10:40 AM

Completely normal reaction. Basically you are looking at a total life change.
Why hell! I was nervous sick!

FRDGAL · 07-06-2010, 10:41 AM

What's to be nervous about? Asking permission, losing freedom, handing over all bank cards to the wife for ANYTHING and EVERYTHING, pleading for mod/spending money ... nervous why? To me it sounds like some exciting times ahead for you :P

Nah, j/k. Congratulations!! I think it's wonderful and even though overwhelming, its an experience that you should enjoy and look forward to. Take it all in. Have a fantastic wedding day and marriage. And be happy. A few drinks before the nuptials too lol.

foxtrot3 · 07-06-2010, 11:12 AM

Hi Just get married in the morning........ that way if it doesnt work you havent wasted the whole day. Cheers, Good luck, Have fun, and its not that bad. MD

Mr Hardware · 07-06-2010, 11:21 AM

Hey mate
it's real easy to get nervous. I had terrible sleeps for the week or week and a half leading up to the day.
Separate in your mind the wedding from the marriage. The wedding is good, but you're on show to a hundred people for eight hours. Just make sure you've got everything covered and don't worry. You cannot change anything by worrying, remember that. The marriage (ie everything after the wedding) will be teriffic. Marriage is GREAT.

Keep yourself busy. Not too busy so you're stressed, mind, but busy enough to not drive yourself to distraction.

On the day, about an hour leading up to it all, i was so nervous i couldn't feel my hands.

The 21st of this month will be 2 years for me and Mrs Hardware.

Good luck to you and your future wife!

StrokedXT · 07-06-2010, 11:26 AM

If things will change dramatically for you when you get married, you are marrying teh wrong girl.

For mine nothing changed still two individuals who do our own things when we want and have our own interests and passions. Didnt get nervous at all as I knew from the minute we met it was inevitable the day would come.

If its stress about teh actual wedding, who cares relax whatever happens happens just enjoy it and treat it like a party with mates, thats what we did we scrapped all the formal crap it meant nothing to us we just had fun and went on with our lives.

SVTVNM · 07-06-2010, 11:27 AM

I think you might have hit the nail right on the head Mrhardware probably more nervous about the fact I will be the centre of attention, not real good at that I like to keep lowkey as a rule.

james22 · 07-06-2010, 11:35 AM

I know the feeling lol. I'm getting hitched on the 21st of August. Its a while away yet, but drawing closer.

For me, its not so much the wedding thing. Its the being the centre of attention part. I prefer being a wallflower lol. (Wedding speech - eeeeeekkkk)

Goodluck mate :-)

Mr Hardware · 07-06-2010, 11:36 AM

Yep. That was the thing for me, I just needed to figure out what I was nervous about.
A wise man said to me, if you were just going to go to the registry office then McDonalds instead, would you still be nervous? I said no way! From that I knew I had no qualms about marriage at all, it was just being 'on parade' for eight hours that had me worried.

grandpa_spec_F6 · 07-06-2010, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Mr Hardware

On the day, about an hour leading up to it all, i was so nervous i couldn't feel my hands.

What he doesn't want you to know is that he gets like this coming up to birthdays too :P

Just relax as much as you can, think of how great life will be, seeing my cousin get married was funny as hell, he was sweating. Over 10 years and two beautiful children later, he is still happily married.

Best of luck to you.

**Peuty** · 07-06-2010, 11:42 AM

Always remember mate, it's never too late to pull out

Fled74 · 07-06-2010, 11:46 AM

Mr. Hardware hit it on the head. I was exactly the same when I tied the knot with my best friend. Eight years and two kids later, she and I are still happily married.

J.C. · 07-06-2010, 11:50 AM

Perfectly normal. As mentioned, total change of life coming your way. Responsibilities will change etc, etc.
You aren't the first sucker to have gone through this and you won't be the last. Many a good men have gone through this process. Some have even failed at it. All part of life.

Honestly, if you truely care and love the woman you are marrying and you wish to spend the rest of your life with her, it shouldn't be a problem. Nerves are the norm at such an event. I can still recall my nerves on the day 16yrs ago this month.
Chill. Chin up, chest out, stand tall, pin your nuts on and enjoy the day and the start to your new life together.
Whatever happens on the day, make the most of it.
Hope it works out well for you both and your future together a bright one.

P.S. after about three hours, your will be sick of smiling for the camera and saying "cheese". All you want to do is have a feed, drink a bit, cut the cake, skip the dancin' and get down to dessert.

FRDGAL · 07-06-2010, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by jeep_by_ford

treat it like a party with mates, thats what we did we scrapped all the formal crap it meant nothing to us we just had fun and went on with our lives.

That's exactly how we'll be doing ours. A bbq at home with a handful of friends & family. Just a simple party and all stress free. Nothing formal other than the celebrant. Stayed at a beautiful place in Bendigo recently, that'll do me for a honeymoon. He can even head to HPR lol. Leave me the wallet and nobody gets hurt

But seriously, I agree with everything Mr Harware wrote. Great advice there

XR5-Boy · 07-06-2010, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Fled74

Mr. Hardware hit it on the head. I was exactly the same when I tied the knot with my best friend. Eight years and two kids later, she and I are still happily married.

And you still manage to find time to work on the car! AMAZING!

StrokedXT · 07-06-2010, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by james22

For me, its not so much the wedding thing. Its the being the centre of attention part. I prefer being a wallflower lol. (Wedding speech - eeeeeekkkk)

Yeah I understand that feeling, im a quiet one as well, When i was asked if to make a speech it was short and sweet

"I never make speeches before i was married unlike half you soft cocks im not going to change just because ive got a ring on my finger"

and that was it and the evening continued.

Feathers · 07-06-2010, 11:57 AM

I've never seen anyone who didn't feel a bit uncomfortable being the centre of attention at their wedding. That is completely normal.

Fled74 · 07-06-2010, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by XR5-Boy

And you still manage to find time to work on the car! AMAZING!

Not since Daughter#2 came along.

Anyway, back on topic, I was literally so numb on my wedding day I couldn't feel my fingers.
My wife and I were a lot calmer during the reception, but we were so overwhelmed we didn't eat much.
To be honest, it all seems a blur - I can't even remember what the food was.

I don't remember making a speech either...

Anyway, best of luck to you, SVTVNM.

chevypower · 07-06-2010, 12:13 PM

Are you more nervous about the wedding, the marriage or being with the girl? If you are nervous and unsure about the girl? Not a good sign.
If you are nervous about married life? Not so bad
About the wedding itself? Just relax and try not to let organization and planning turn it in to a bad day, try to enjoy it. It is your guys day afterall, not everyone elses you have to entertain, if that makes sense.

Best wishes.

**Polyal** · 07-06-2010, 12:13 PM

hehe yeah I dont think I was nervous, more anxious to get it out of the way. If you have been with her for long enough then its more of a big party really.

I got married in the morning and thankgod I did, went to a wedding on the weekend that felt like it went for ages!

Fled74 · 07-06-2010, 12:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Polyal

If you have been with her for long enough then its more of a big party really.

Very true.

GreenMachine · 07-06-2010, 12:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Peuty

Always remember mate, it's never too late to pull out

Do we need to have a chat about birth control, Peuty?

rag top · 07-06-2010, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by GreenMachine

Do we need to have a chat about birth control, Peuty?

gold!

grandpa_spec_F6 · 07-06-2010, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by GreenMachine

Do we need to have a chat about birth control, Peuty?

Birth control would be pointless if he drives his women like he drives his car

Rodp · 07-06-2010, 02:08 PM

NSFW : Colourful language.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kEjVn...ext=1&index=14

Mz Revvv Head · 07-06-2010, 03:29 PM

Congrats SVTVNM ...

Enjoy the day & chillax

now you know your not alone with the feeling ...

Is your lady also feeling the nervous side of it too ?

You were brave enough to ask the marry you ? the wedding will be the easy bit ...

I hope your wedding cars are Fords ;)

SVTVNM · 07-06-2010, 03:34 PM

Yep, 2 Vermillion fire XY GT's, And maybe if my mechanic can weave his magic my Yellow Ochre Replica

CFOUR · 07-06-2010, 03:36 PM

you'll be fine.

XYGTHO · 07-06-2010, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by james22

I know the feeling lol. I'm getting hitched on the 21st of August. Its a while away yet, but drawing closer.

For me, its not so much the wedding thing. Its the being the centre of attention part. I prefer being a wallflower lol. (Wedding speech - eeeeeekkkk)

Goodluck mate :-)

Ha ha dido, i'm getting married at the end of July but haven't had time to worry about it yet. So busy. My main concern is having the car running properly for it. lol
I will not change or anything really. We will probably join the same health cover and that sort of thing and I might ask for some money towards the house repayments. At the moment I pay the house she pays for food (way better deal for her). We both want the house paid off asap though so trying to convince her to contribute before we have kids. She came into the relationship knowing being with me is being with cars and thats how it has always been.