Worst way you have been dumped or dumped someone

[Grechie]

never been dumped b4, but have done 1 over the net wen i was like 14 and another one woz over the mobile, hurt me a bit to do it but it was for the best, but nothing a cruise couldnt cheer up !!!

[nothin' so gr8]

please state your sex (m/f) f

(1) What was the duration of the relationship? 7yrs
(2) Give details, or circumstances ;) Dated for 4yrs, then married
(3) Did you get revenge/or had revenge placed apon you if so what was it? No. Not interested.
(4) Have you seen your ex since, and what was his/her reaction? Hates that I'm ok. Goes out of his way to make life hard for me where he can (which, unfortunately, is only through hurting our kids)
(5) Did you try and win back your ex? Yes, he left me and came back again on an average of every 6-8 weeks after our first baby was born.
(6)Was it a clean break, or messy? Messy - I stopped taking the blame (broke the pattern) and he didn't know what to do, so he sat in limbo for about 5 weeks before deciding he wanted to separate permanently.
(7) In your opinion which is better, clean break or having to see them again? Clean, but that's not always an option.
(8) do you look out for them when around town? Yes.
(9) do you think males or females get over it eaiser? Neither - depends on the individual + the amount of good emotional support they have from others.
(10) how many times do you think a 3rd party plays into it, aka new person. Often, not always.
(11) did you confront your ex or walk away? Walked away (this time!)
(12) did you get closure? if so what was it? Kind of - my mantra is to be able to look my kids in the eye and tell them I did all I could to protect them from harm.
(13) Do you belive in karma? YES!!
(14) how long before you got over it (days,weeks,years)? Once he made up his mind, weeks.
(15) what did you do to get over it? Prayed. Wrote in a journal. Leant on shoulders that, thankfully, were there.
(16) Did you see it coming? Should have... didn't.
(17) if you dumped the person, when did you know it was time? and how many days/weeks/month did you take to decide? NA
(18) after it happened, what did you decide caused it? (communication error, taken for granted etc). He's a lazy bum who got tired of posing as a decent person.
(19) what were some of the excuses/reason used for the breakup/breaking up "I can't believe you, of all people, would do that to ME" - his words in reference to the police-ordered ADVO court action.
(20) what do you feel for this person now? (nothing, angry etc)? Nothing. I get frustrated with his behaviour toward the kids, but am learning that I have no control over his actions. I provide the information on what SHOULD happen, he doesn't heed the advice, saying I am just trying to control him.
(21) what wise words of wisdom do you now pass on to friends/family/children after this experince about breakups/breaking up. If it's just you, make sure you behave decently toward the injured party, then you can both move on. If there are kids involved, make sure you get expert advice (information abounds) on what's best for them and adhere to it.
(22) do you belive you were told the truth? Yes - he stills sees himself as a victim, and paints himself that way to others. The guy's headf&**&%d.
(23) did you want to know you your ex was/is going out with? Yes. He takes my kids to sleep at her house with her 4 kids, has since 2 weeks into their relationship. I'd like to at least meet the woman.
(24) what ratio are you with being the dumper/dumped (10/3)? 95% dumper.
(25) any other comments or question you think should be added to the poll/survey...